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UK Family Court·Insights for litigants in person

Gap 163

Assumption: "The MIAM is just a box to tick before I can go to court."

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This content reflects observational insights and lived community experiences. It does not constitute legal advice — always consult a qualified professional for your specific circumstances.

What People Expect

Litigants believe the Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting is a formality that has no real bearing on their case.

Court Reality

The MIAM is a legal requirement before you can file a C100. You cannot skip it unless an exemption applies — and those exemptions must be properly evidenced, not simply claimed. If you are a victim of domestic abuse, your support worker or caseworker can help you evidence the exemption correctly. If mediation is assessed as appropriate, shuttle mediation means you and the other party never have to be in the same room. Courts look favourably on parties who have genuinely engaged with the process.

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"The MIAM is just a box to tick before I can go to court."

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Published28 June 2026Last reviewed31 August 2026

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