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🧵 Common Belief

"The First Appointment (FDA) is where the court decides your case or tests the evidence."

The FDA is a case management hearing, not a trial. The judge looks at what is agreed and what is in dispute, and gives directions on anything still needed — further disclosure, questionnaire answers, valuations. No evidence is tested and no decision is made on the outcome. Treat it as a planning meeting, not a hearing to win or lose.

Family Court Reality
🧵 Common Belief

"A non-molestation order is only ever a short-term, temporary measure."

Where the court finds that risk is ongoing, a non-molestation order can be made to run for a long period, including until each child protected by it reaches the age of 18, extending to cover school and other places the children attend.

Family Court Reality

You are not behind. You are exactly where someone in your position is meant to be.

Bridge The Gap

🧵 Common Belief

"The judge will see right through them."

Judges see hundreds of cases. They need evidence, not emotions. Coming prepared with documents matters far more than how wronged you feel.

Hearing Tips

Now you know. What is next?

Understanding is only the first step. Bridge The Gap exists to make sure you do not face this alone.

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Please note: Nothing in this article constitutes legal advice and we are not liable for any reliance on the information provided. Family court rules and procedures can change, and whilst this was correct at the time of writing, circumstances may have changed since publication. For up-to-date guidance, please refer to Gov.uk or consult a qualified legal professional.

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