How to Prepare for Your First Family Court Hearing as a Litigant in Person
Your first family court hearing can be daunting. Here is what to expect, what to bring, and how to present yourself as a self-represented litigant in the UK.
Your First Family Court Hearing
Walking into a family court hearing for the first time as a litigant in person is one of the most nerve-wracking experiences you will face. You are not alone in feeling overwhelmed — most self-represented litigants describe their first hearing as a blur of legal language, procedural confusion, and emotional strain.
This guide breaks down what to expect, what to bring, and how to prepare so you can walk in ready.
What Happens at a First Hearing?
The first hearing in family court is usually procedural. The judge will:
- Review the application and any response filed
- Check that both parties have completed required steps (such as MIAM or financial disclosure)
- Set a timetable for the rest of the case
- Identify the key issues to be resolved
- Consider whether mediation or negotiation could help
In financial remedy cases, this is the First Appointment. In child arrangements cases, it is the FHDRA (First Hearing Dispute Resolution Appointment). In non-molestation cases, if you applied without notice, the first hearing is ex parte and the respondent is not present.
What to Bring
- Your court bundle (indexed and paginated)
- A notebook and pen for taking notes
- A bottle of water
- Your position statement (if you have prepared one)
- Copies of all forms you have filed
- Identification
- A list of questions you want to ask the judge
How to Present Yourself
- Address the judge as "Your Honour" or "Sir/Madam"
- Stand when you are addressed by the judge
- Speak clearly and slowly
- Stick to the facts — do not let emotion drive your words
- Take notes during the hearing
- Ask for clarification if you do not understand something
Can a McKenzie Friend Come With You?
Yes. A McKenzie Friend can sit beside you in court, take notes, and provide quiet support. They cannot speak on your behalf or address the judge directly, but their presence can be invaluable for keeping you calm and organised.
The Bottom Line
Your first hearing is not where your case is decided. It is where the framework is set. If you are prepared, calm, and clear about what you are asking for, you will make a strong impression — and set the tone for the rest of your case.
Further Reading
- Understanding Financial Remedy: How the Court Divides Assets
- C100 Application: A Complete Guide to Child Arrangements Orders
- Position Statements Guide
- Find a McKenzie Friend
Last updated 10 October 2026: checked against the Family Procedure Rules updates published by the Ministry of Justice to 13 July 2026, including extended pilot schemes (PD36Z, PD36ZH, PD36V) and new rules on regulated experts. Pilots and local practice can change, so check your court letters and the current official text. See Family Procedure Rules Updates 2026.
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Please note
Please note: Nothing on this article constitutes legal advice and we are not liable for any reliance on the information provided. Family court rules and procedures can change, and whilst this was correct at the time of writing, circumstances may have changed since publication. For up-to-date guidance, please refer to Gov.uk or consult a qualified legal professional.