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The law forces you to negotiate and reach an agreement, and refusing to settle is penalised.
There is no legal duty to negotiate or to agree. What the rules do is expect real engagement. The court must consider non-court dispute resolution, such as mediation, at every stage, and can pause a case so the parties can try it. The pressure comes through costs. If someone fails, without good reason, to attend a MIAM or non-court dispute resolution, the judge can take that into account when deciding whether to make a costs order. Attending and considering a proposal is not the same as having to accept it.
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No legal duty to agree. But refusing to take part can have costs consequences.
There is a legal duty to negotiate, so if I do not agree to anything I will be punished.
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There is no legal duty to negotiate or to agree. What the rules do is expect real engagement. The court must consider non-court dispute resolution, such as mediation, at every stage, and can pause a case so the parties can try it.
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