UK Family Court·Insights for litigants in person
Gap 462

Assumption: "Asking for more than I want gives me room to negotiate."

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This content reflects observational insights and lived community experiences. It does not constitute legal advice — always consult a qualified professional for your specific circumstances.

What People Expect

Parents may open with an extreme proposal, expecting to settle somewhere in the middle.

Court Reality

The court reads your proposals as evidence of your motives. An extreme proposal, such as no contact for months, can make the court question whether you genuinely support the other parent's relationship with your child.

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The Gap?

"Asking for more than I want gives me room to negotiate."

Court Reality

The court reads your proposals as evidence of your motives. An extreme proposal, such as no contact for months, can make the court question whether you genuinely support the other parent's relationship with your child.

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Published30 September 2026Last reviewed30 September 2026

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