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Assumption: "Indirect contact such as letters, calls or recordings is always a safe way to stay in touch."

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This content reflects observational insights and lived community experiences. It does not constitute legal advice — always consult a qualified professional for your specific circumstances.

What People Expect

Indirect contact is often seen as a low-risk option that courts will always allow.

Court Reality

Courts weigh the safety and wellbeing of the child and of the parent they live with. Where domestic abuse has been found or admitted, a court may decide that indirect contact is not safe or appropriate, including where it could re-traumatise the protective parent. This is a discretionary decision based on the facts.

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The Gap?

"Indirect contact such as letters, calls or recordings is always a safe way to stay in touch."

Court Reality

Courts weigh the safety and wellbeing of the child and of the parent they live with.

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Published9 October 2026Last reviewed9 October 2026

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