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Assumption: "(Alienating Behaviour) If I say the other parent is turning my child against me, the court will look at their behaviour first."

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This content reflects observational insights and lived community experiences. It does not constitute legal advice — always consult a qualified professional for your specific circumstances.

What People Expect

Parents expect an alienation allegation to lead straight to an investigation of the other parent.

Court Reality

The Family Justice Council's December 2024 guidance sets a fixed order. First, is the child actually reluctant, resisting or refusing? Second, is that a justified reaction to the complaining parent's own behaviour, or a normal attachment to the parent they live with? Only if neither explains it does the court look at alienating behaviour. Where there are domestic abuse findings against you, an allegation raised without evidence is likely to be tested hard.

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The Gap?

"(Alienating Behaviour) If I say the other parent is turning my child against me, the court will look at their behaviour first."

Court Reality

The Family Justice Council's December 2024 guidance sets a fixed order. First, is the child actually reluctant, resisting or refusing?

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Published30 September 2026Last reviewed8 October 2026

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