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Assumption: "I need a "bulldog" lawyer who will fight aggressively and give the other side hell."

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This content reflects observational insights and lived community experiences. It does not constitute legal advice — always consult a qualified professional for your specific circumstances.

What People Expect

A parent may believe that hiring an aggressive, combative solicitor who fights hard and gives the other side no quarter will get them a better outcome.

Court Reality

The law is the law. A solicitor's tone doesn't change the facts, the statute, or the welfare test the court applies. Aggression by itself doesn't get anyone penalised, but refusing to negotiate reasonably can, since parties are expected to engage constructively and a failure to do so can attract a costs order.

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The Gap?

"I need a "bulldog" lawyer who will fight aggressively and give the other side hell."

Court Reality

The law is the law. A solicitor's tone doesn't change the facts, the statute, or the welfare test the court applies.

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Published22 September 2026Last reviewed8 October 2026

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