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UK Family Court·Insights for litigants in person

Gap 277

Assumption: "Making conduct allegations in financial remedy proceedings will always help my case."

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This content reflects observational insights and lived community experiences. It does not constitute legal advice — always consult a qualified professional for your specific circumstances.

What People Expect

Litigants in person often believe that telling the court about their ex's bad conduct — how they were wronged, how the other side behaved — will persuade the judge to adjust the financial settlement in their favour.

Court Reality

The court only takes conduct into account where it would be 'inequitable to disregard' — a high threshold that most ordinary misconduct does not meet. In Gray v Gray [2023] EWFC 349 (B), a self-represented husband pursued a conduct case that failed entirely, and was ordered to pay 75% of his wife's legal costs. Pursuing conduct allegations that don't meet the threshold doesn't just fail to help — it can saddle you with a substantial costs order against you.

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Published31 August 2026Last reviewed31 August 2026

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