Private FDR: What People Assume vs What Actually Happens

General information only. This is not legal advice. If you are involved in court proceedings, you should seek independent legal advice specific to your situation.

Private FDR gets mentioned a lot once a financial remedy case is underway, usually by a solicitor, sometimes by the other side, sometimes in something you've read online. But a lot of what circulates about it doesn't quite match how it actually works. Here's where the assumption and the reality tend to pull apart.

Assumption: It's only for wealthy couples with big assets

Reality: Private FDR started life in high-value cases, mostly because that's where the numbers made a private evaluator's fee feel small by comparison. But it's increasingly used in lower and mid-value cases too, where a focused, well-prepared evaluator can still be worth the cost if the alternative is months of drift toward a final hearing. The real question isn't whether your case is big enough. It's whether both of you can genuinely absorb the cost without it eating into what's left to divide.

Assumption: Everyone already knows this option exists

Reality: A 2026 survey of 1,000 UK adults found that only a quarter of people were aware that private alternatives to court even existed, even though almost 40% said they'd pay more for a faster, private resolution if it meant avoiding the wait. If nobody's mentioned Private FDR to you before now, that's not because it's rare or unusual. It's because awareness of it is still genuinely low, even among people who'd use it given the choice.

Assumption: The private judge's decision is binding

Reality: It isn't. The evaluator gives an indication of what they think a court would decide. Neither party has to accept it. That's the whole point of the process, it's meant to inform your negotiation, not replace it. If you're picturing something closer to arbitration, where the decision does bind you, that's a different process entirely.

Assumption: You'll get to put your own case to the judge

Reality: Normally, no. Your solicitor or barrister presents your case and negotiates on your behalf. You're usually in the room, but you're not the one talking to the evaluator. If you're representing yourself with a McKenzie Friend, this matters a lot, a McKenzie Friend cannot address the evaluator or negotiate for you on the day. What they can do is help you get ready beforehand: understanding what the evaluator will actually be looking at, and making sure you're not walking in with an unrealistic picture of where things stand.

Assumption: It's a cheaper alternative to court

Reality: It's often cheaper than the cost of running all the way to a final hearing, but it isn't free, and it isn't cheap in absolute terms. You're paying for the evaluator's time, usually split between both parties, on top of preparing the case and being represented on the day. A court FDR doesn't charge for the judge. If money is already tight, that difference matters more than most articles about Private FDR let on.

Assumption: A Private FDR settles the case

Reality: Often, but not always. Even where it doesn't produce a full agreement on the day, it usually narrows what's actually in dispute, which can make everything that follows quicker and cheaper. But there's no guarantee. If it doesn't settle, the case simply continues, back into court, into further negotiation, or toward mediation.

Assumption: Ignoring the judge's steer costs you nothing

Reality: You're entitled to reject it, but it's rarely free to do so in practice. If you walk away from a clear, well-reasoned indication and later end up at a final hearing with a broadly similar outcome, you may have spent a lot more money to arrive somewhere you could have reached months earlier. That doesn't mean you should always accept it. It means the decision to reject it should be a considered one, not an emotional one.

Assumption: A court FDR is basically the same thing, just free

Reality: The aim is the same, but the experience often isn't. A court FDR judge is allocated from whoever's available that day and may have had very limited time to read your papers beforehand. A Private FDR judge is chosen by both of you, usually has relevant specialist experience, and has the whole day set aside for your case alone. That's a real advantage, but it's one you're paying for.

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